HOW WE LOST OUR VIRGINITY

CredoWriters: Wakdok, Samuel Stephen.



Humanly speaking we were all born with our virginity intact, but honestly speaking most if not all of us have lost our virginity. How we lost our virginity, when we lost of virginity, and what or who we lost our virginity to is very key, but not the ultimate.

Virginity is defined by the dictionary as an unspoiled state. It is the state of being untouched, unexplored, or unspoiled. Many of us were virgins in our hearts, in our trust, in our finances, in our beliefs, in our academic pursuits, in our ambitions, in our careers and in a host of others. And as varying as these states of virginity are, so have we lost our virginity in various states; individually or combined.


Once we were innocent, once we were full of trust, once we were happy, once we were young at heart, once we were optimistic, once we were full of faith and not long ago we believed in hope, we had confidence in our selves. Today the young man has lost his self esteem, the boy has lost his confidence, the lady has lost her trust in love, the woman has lost her happiness, the parents have lost their sleep, and the citizens have lost faith. We have lost one or few or many of the various states of virginity. We gave our all and got none or so little in return. He loved with all his heart and got all the disappointments. We had gone to school with the hope to achieve our ambitions, some have achieved, some are still achieving but some have lost the drive to achieve. Many a young people grew up to seek and believe in love. Some are happily in love; others are sadly out of love. Most of us had plans to be financially emancipated, some are on their path, others have met with obstacles and some have met brick walls.


We were once naive; today we are suspicious, worldly and shrewd. We were once innocent today we are malicious and some times tainted. We were once full of hope; today we are skeptics and pessimists. We were once courageous today we live in despair. We were once happy today we are sad and full of grief. We were once buoyant; today we are glum and sullen. We no longer aspire, we no longer dream, we no longer plan, we no longer wish and we no longer desire. How then can we hope to achieve? How can we live if we do not anticipate? Should loosing our virginity kill our dreams and life?



We lost our hearts to heart break, should the heart break last for ever? We lost our love to failed relationships; must we deny ourselves the right to love again? We lost our wealth to the economic meltdown will the gloom remain till death? We lost our happiness to those who exploited us, should we remain in that state? We lost our trust to those who betrayed us must we doubt the whole world? We lost our childhood to wrong peers can't we become better adults?


We may have lost a lot but we can not afford to loose our head. We need to win our confidence and faith and trust and personality back. Loosing our virginity is not as tragic as not gaining the lessons that will help us regain our worth. Loosing our virginity may be painful but remaining in a state of perpetual lost is more painful, that will be a total lost.


That we have lost our virginity is no longer news, how we lost our virginity should not kill our morale but the question we should ask is: what did we gain when we lost our virginity? Did we gain the lessons? Did we gain the experience? Are we going to remain perpetual losers or can we bounce back?


If we lost our virginity we can not afford to loose ourselves.



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